ISO Best friend, must have a great sense of humor, compassion, be intuitive and know how to “take it to the grave”. Preferably a woman, with at least one child, bonus if the child has special needs, such as autism, extra bonus if said child is a young adult.
She must be able to differentiate between venting and literal meaning in regards to husband ranting. If I say “I want to kill my husband” she needs to know weather to hand me bowl of ice cream, or to start Googling “How to get blood out of the carpet without fading the color.”
She needs to be able cheer with me when my autistic child reaches a long overdo milestone, and not get grossed out when I talk about some of the not so pleasantries that come with being an autism mom.
She needs to be able to look at me and know that I NEED to get out of the house and have a girls day, because the overwhelming black cloud that follows me around, is getting so close that it’s starting to block out the sun. Or that I need her to just bring her hubby and kids over with a board game and snacks for a communal gathering.
She cannot be judgmental, especially about the condition of my house if she drops in unexpectedly, or about my weight. However, she needs to motivate me by saying things such as “Your house smells great, I think it’s the smell of the fabric softener lofting through the air, from the heaping pile of laundry on the couch, waiting to be folded.” and “Come on, get your sneakers on, I feel like a 2 mile walk n talk.”
She needs to be able to read between the lines, when I say things like “Mary’s daughter just had a baby, Mary is now a Grandma!” and know that what I am really saying is “How lucky Mary is, I envy her, I will never be a grandmother.”
She needs to be able to blurt out the lines to a movie or sing a bit of a song that pops into her head as it relates to our conversation. Bonus if she can join in as I do it.
She needs to be able to get along with my family, and mix well with the white collars, blue collars and rednecks.
Above all, she needs to know that most of this information that I share with her, has to stay hidden in the room that I have created, because no one on the “outside” can ever know… they just wouldn’t understand.
This position is open until filled, compensation will be matched accordingly. Serious Inquiries only.
~ASM